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Hello dear reader.

I have been very upset the last few days. Been reading and watching videoclips on Facebook about the new law the Danish government has made. I have written some statuses and many comments… I should write a blogpost about that issue. But it is too overwhelming.

Here is my main facebook status about it. Which covers my opinion:

Lene Kaltwasser Henriksen
28. januar kl. 16:39 ·

I am furious. I am so sad. I am livid. I write in English so I can reach everyone. This Danish government?
They have…destroyed our nation’s pride. Our dignity.
Our identity as a people who cares. Who shares.
Who stands for humanism. Equality.
These people in the government. Acting out of fear. Out of greed. Out of lack of empathy. Breaking human rights. Hurting families and children. Knowingly!!! Who does such a thing? What is the ideology? Ūbermensch I tell u. Evil ! A spade is a spade.
Tax relief for the rich. Thats what this sick government cares about. More money for the richest ones. Including themselves. Oh if we were in France 1789… heads would roll.
They are doing damage to Denmark these idiots. This is not how the Danish nation reacts to a wave of people in deep need.
Come on! This is a nightmare!
Imagine being a Syrian refugee. One month on the run, in dangerous boats, through woods, just scared. To escape. To find somewhere safe to live. For the future of your children. And then. They take your last posessions on the border. And they tell u that u will not see your kids and wife for three years.
How would u survive that?
Maybe suicide is the aim of the government. Saves money. You know. The AllMighty Fuckedup Dollar.
My condolances. This government.
The worst I have ever known in my homeland.
I really never imagined this could be possible.
Intelligence. Empathy. Dignity. None.
None. !
Un believe able.

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Here is one of my favourite songs for describing longing for peace in one´s homeland… Dire Straits with Brothers in Arms.

 

I have shared many videoclips and newspaper articles. About how they don´t listen in parliament, when one politician tells them the law makes her sad and explains to them its consequences. Her colleagues sit and chat with eachother while she speaks. Open disrespect. No manners!

And then they passed the law. 81 fore, 27 against. And 70 members of parliament were NOT PRESENT!!! Where were they?!?! Why were they not there?!?!

Two of the party Venstre´s ministers were called in to a questioning in Brussels two days before the voting. To explain their extreme, hostile law. And they stood there lying and avoiding telling the truth about it. For example that it breaks UN´s human rights convention for children!

They will now take jewellery from refugees to help pay for their keeping. Outrageous. Like the nazis. Yeah. Brilliant idea.

And much worse: They will make refugees wait three years before they can be reunited with their spouses and children, left behind in the war zone.

If I knew how, I would paste some of the facebook posts here. But I don´t know how to do that.

Seems easy, embed post, but… no. Just tried again. And read the tech help text. Oh well. Let go let go.

I share this one instead. Also a lot nicer to take in than the picture of those heartless politicians.

compassion necessity

 

It knocked me out of balance, that fascist law. To realize DENMARK can do such a thing. Shocking to me. A lot of Danes are shocked and disgusted and sad and shameful about this government´s new law.

I feel better now. Having talked about it with friends, having cried a lot and written about it. Also I have realized that the law of the three year long wait to be reunited with family, will be a reality for only about 10% of the asylum seekers. Not that that makes it less harmful. Or. Yes it does in numbers. But the pain it will induce on the ones it hits….. how can people come up with a rule like that. Ungraspable.

I am extremely relieved that the 3 year rule will not hit  my Syrian friend Asaad, who moved to Fanø first of December… and whose youngest daughter turned 2 years old on the 26.of January… he will not have to wait until she is 5 before he sees her again.

I am so relieved, and I just HOPE my interpretation of the law´s text is correct. It says that the asylum seekers who get only one year´s stay allowance (or how they phrase it). Those are the ones who have to wait. Most Syrians get 2 or 5 years stay allowance. Asaad has got 5 years.

If I ruled Europe, we would invest in the refugees. Give them treatment for the trauma they have endured. Then education and later jobs. Actually, I would invest in Greece. They suffer immensely there. We could help them build a really good refugee camp there. And every European country could send a team of specialists, to help in every way, both the Greek citizens and the refugee citizens.

I would say that “Okay, Denmark has now received 15.000 refugees. We now close the border, because we must find the families of our new citizens, and start to integrate them. We have made a 5% tax for corporations that earn more than a million kroner a week. And this new stately income will cover the extra cost of our investment in the refugees´ wellfare. If we find that the cost will be higher, we will sell our war planes. We no longer need them anyway, because we have decided to stop taking part in the war in Syria. We will from now on be a nation for peace. No more war.”

“And as soon as were have the families reunited, and can see how things are going and what challenges and opportunities we have. Then we will of course open our borders again and accept more refugees. Because we see this as our human duty, to treat our brothers and sisters with love. We are one humanity and we must stand together in times of need.”

if u dont fit in its because u will make a new world

This is what I should. One thing is to report the evil. That is being done by journalists all over the world. Not always as well as it needs to be done, but. This Danish law and its disgrace, they have covered well.

What is MY mission, is to uplift. To help myself and others digest the difficulties, and keep strong and hopeful, solution orientated, positive and optimistic about the future and about human individuals´ capacity for love in spite of capitalism, in spite of xenofobia, fear of the unknown…

The refugees who come here, are people. Just like us. Individuals. The Danes connect with them really gently and friendly. One example is the facebook group phenomena “Venligboerne” which means “The Friendly Dwellers”. In the groups individuals organize help for the refugees. Find them places to live, give clothes and furniture to them, invite refugees to special cafe meetings… anything.
It started in Denmark and spread to Germany. I don´t know if more countries have them yet?

venligboerne

Check them out…. All in all, choose to focus on the positive, loving messages about the refugees. It is really so rewarding to get to know them. I have always been curious to get to know people from other countries. It does not drain me. A mutual bond develops, like in any other friendship. They need help, and it feels good to be of help to people. And to teach people about the local customs and how things work. And people who get help, want to give something back. You will find they also try to find ways of helping you back. Very rewarding relationships. Where one learns a lot, and laughs a lot actually, in the process of communicating with limited language skills…

Go familiarize yourself with the refugees and their situation. If we all greet and meet them, integration will be easy. When there is segregation, non integration, it is because the parties do not meet and get involved with eachother. We have tons in common with any other human being! Like a need and appreciation for food. And music. Dancing. Jokes. Like wanting safety and happiness. Like tears of joy and of pain. Like smiles.

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Happiness, Compassion, Awareness

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happiness is to not compare yourself

So true. We do not compare different kinds of trees and say one is better than the other. Our comparing ourselves to other people is… destructive!

happiness is not locked

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To me, happiness equals meaning. To feel I have purpose makes me happy. That I am of use, of help, of value.
Happiness is easier when I avoid expectations.
And when I remind myself  that I am the maker of my happiness, no one else is responsible for it.

im not perfect

Indeed…

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compassion is to share woundedness

Compassion is a relationship between equals. Sharing eachother´s darkness. Recognizing our shared humanity. Beautifully put, this.

 

to care is a weakness and a strength

I don´t think I would define the ability to care as a weakness. Other than that, this is a nice and useful statement.

 

feel what we say

I would say AND instead of “more often than we”, but. Yeah.
We should feel what we say and say what we feel.
White lies is ok, though, to avoid hurting someone unnecessarily. In my book that´s okay.

 

awareness behind tolle

Bottom line.
Mr. Tolle.
He is … extremely inspiring…

So.

That was just a handful nice posters.

Wishing you a super Monday night, and a week filled with smiles and constructiveness.

Be happy, don´t worry!

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10.01. David Bowie

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The following morning, after I wrote in the night about the good Joni Mitchell… I got up, very tired of course, only because my eldest child starts school way too early every God blessed day…
Yeah, well.
I was sitting there with a coffeecup, scrolling my Facebook stream, and. A message from the son. That his father had died. 10.of January. two days after his 69.birthday, where he also relesed his album number 28 I think it was, or 29.?

David Bowie. He struggled with cancer the last 18 months. Very few knew.

david bowie

He is of course an icon, a legend and a unique artist, who has helped us understand the world and our selves these last 50 years or so. He is different from everything and all. In his use of theatrical characters from album to album. Showing us that self presentation is all about masks and costumes and plays with lines and scenes, and that we can create our personas freely, and over and over again play with or change our identity, or at least our personalities… self enactment? Is that a word?

Myself I have never gotten that deeply into Bowies music. Ok, hits like Rebel Rebel, and Major Tom to ground control… (that album was great all the way through… ) But it didn´t grip my soul like for example Roger Waters´ “Amused to death” did… maybe I was just a tad bit too young for Bowie…

It is fantastic that he celebrates his birthday with an album release 08. of Jan, knowing he is dying, and then gets soaring reviews Saturday and leaves earth on Sunday. Elegant, is the word I am tempted to use. Not that he planned it, maybe not. Though who knows? But.

He went through with his project, and then he let go.

Although, his producer says  that Bowie demoed five new songs for another album… so he hadn´t drawn his creative full stop.
I hope they will allow those demoes to come out.
Let me give you the music video of his new album´s title track:

It´s a whole short film isn´t it.
Disturbing. With his bandaged face. Button (?) eyes. The shaking, serious, empty-look black man – white man – woman dance…

The lyrics.

Here:

In the villa of Ormen, in the villa of Ormen
Stands a solitary candle, ah-ah, ah-ah
In the centre of it all, in the centre of it all
Your eyes

On the day of execution, on the day of execution
Only women kneel and smile, ah-ah, ah-ah
At the centre of it all, at the centre of it all
Your eyes, your eyes

Ah-ah-ah
Ah-ah-ah

In the villa of Ormen, in the villa of Ormen
Stands a solitary candle, ah-ah, ah-ah
In the centre of it all, in the centre of it all
Your eyes
Ah-ah-ah

Something happened on the day he died
Spirit rose a metre and stepped aside
Somebody else took his place, and bravely cried
(I’m a blackstar, I’m a blackstar)

How many times does an angel fall?
How many people lie instead of talking tall?
He trod on sacred ground, he cried loud into the crowd
(I’m a blackstar, I’m a blackstar, I’m not a gangstar)

I can’t answer why (I’m a blackstar)
Just go with me (I’m not a filmstar)
I’m-a take you home (I’m a blackstar)
Take your passport and shoes (I’m not a popstar)
And your sedatives, boo (I’m a blackstar)
You’re a flash in the pan (I’m not a marvel star)
I’m the Great I Am (I’m a blackstar)

I’m a blackstar, way up, on money, I’ve got game
I see right, so wide, so open-hearted pain
I want eagles in my daydreams, diamonds in my eyes
(I’m a blackstar, I’m a blackstar)

Something happened on the day he died
Spirit rose a metre then stepped aside
Somebody else took his place, and bravely cried
(I’m a blackstar, I’m a star’s star, I’m a blackstar)

I can’t answer why (I’m not a gangstar)
But I can tell you how (I’m not a film star)
We were born upside-down (I’m a star’s star)
Born the wrong way ‘round (I’m not a white star)
(I’m a blackstar, I’m not a gangstar
I’m a blackstar, I’m a blackstar
I’m not a pornstar, I’m not a wandering star
I’m a blackstar, I’m a blackstar)

In the villa of Ormen stands a solitary candle
Ah-ah, ah-ah
At the centre of it all, your eyes
On the day of execution, only women kneel and smile
Ah-ah, ah-ah
At the centre of it all, your eyes, your eyes
Ah-ah-ah

Wow.

“Something happened on the day he died. Spirit rose a metre and stepped aside.”

“he trod on sacred ground, he cried loud into the crowd” …

“Just go with me (I’m not a filmstar)
I’m-a take you home (I’m a blackstar)
Take your passport and shoes (I’m not a popstar)
And your sedatives, boo (I’m a blackstar)
You’re a flash in the pan (I’m not a marvel star)
I’m the Great I Am (I’m a blackstar)”

A man facing his death wrote this. I cry when I meet this movie.
It really touches me. And I feel respect for his way of expressing his facing with his body´s end, like this. In melody and words. And in theatrical film on top of it, himself being the lead character.
Come on. How strong can a human get? Not much stronger than David shows us here.

I so want to know what that disturbing shaking means. And Blackstar.

Well.

Things come and go, and we must trust that all is as supposed to be.

To me this video is about Syria. Our new planetarian emergency situation.

Seems (to me) he only managed to get two videos made for his new album.
This is the one I saw first:

Lyrics:

Lazarus (David Bowie)

Look up here, I’m in heaven

I’ve got scars that can’t be seen

I’ve got drama, can’t be stolen

Everybody knows me now

Look up here, man, I’m in danger

I’ve got nothing left to lose

I’m so high it makes my brain whirl

Dropped my cell phone down below

Ain’t that just like me

By the time I got to New York

I was living like a king

Then I used up all my money

I was looking for your ass

This way or no way

You know, I’ll be free

Just like that bluebird

Now ain’t that just like me

Oh I’ll be free

Just like that bluebird

Oh I’ll be free

Ain’t that just like me

That video makes me cry as well. Not because I was a huge fan of David´s. I wasn´t really. I just knew he was great. But here. Making these videos as a dying man. Allowing us to look into his eyes.
So intense. Both sound and words. And him. Never seen anything like this. So grateful.

You know I am very interested in  death and dying, right?

Read my post http://dealing with death

Also in several of the posts in the category Vocal Sound Therapy I write about death… how I had a client who was dying, the meeting with her.  http://kaltwasser.dk/crossed-over/

And in a later post, I wrote about how I would like to help people in their death process… to work in hospice maybe…

Anyways.
David he does something very special in giving us this album. Accept my deepest thank you, David.

I have read a lot of analyzing articles these last few days about his album. And life. In the light of his passing.

Here is the one that has given me the most. It is alas in Danish. Maybe it will get English subtitles later.
His is a name to notice. A pop musician turned spiritual teacher. Lars Muhl. His site Cosma Porta has many videos in English also.

Here he speaks about David, and his last two videos. In context of Jungian archetypes. especially that of Lazarus.

​Yeah… very interesting, what he has to say… Don´t want to translate into English here and now.  Just watch that space. Lars Muhl. Worth listening to. About a lot of things to do with spirituality.

I will finish this post with a couple of his eminent songs, that I remember from growing up:

 

 

Lyrics:

You’ve got your mother in a whirl
She’s not sure if you’re a boy or a girl
Hey babe, your hair’s alright
Hey babe, let’s go out tonight
You like me, and I like it all
We like dancing and we look divine
You love bands when they’re playing hard
You want more and you want it fast
They put you down, they say I’m wrong
You tacky thing, you put them on

Rebel Rebel, you’ve torn your dress
Rebel Rebel, your face is a mess
Rebel Rebel, how could they know?
Hot tramp, I love you so!

Don’t ya?
Doo doo doo-doo doo doo doo doo …….

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Thank you for all you have been and all you have seen, David.

Enjoy the Freedom Now.

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Inspired by Joni M.

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“Oh me oh my there’s a light in the sky….” (Steve Hillage, on the album Green)…

I just saw a hell of a great documentary. Made by Susan…Lacy, was it? About Joni Mitchell. Interviewing her, and all those closest to her, through all the different, oh so varied steps in her life / career… Enormously inspiring.

You may be thinking; Goodness gracious, you didn´t discover her genious until today?!
But yes, of course I have known of her, and listened to the occasional song by her.
But not in depth. Not really her poetry either. Didn´t know she was such a revolutionary.

I know my way around the music of the 60s and 70s okay well. Not very well. I was born in 72 after all. But I have always loved the classics, the Beatles, Lennon, Kinks, Stones, Incredible String Band, Syd Barret, Bolan, all the hippy hits, Mamas and the Papas…. many. Many.

But not really Joni. Until tonight.

Just Ice. Governed by greed and lust.

Effin fantastic.

The film made me cry several times tonight. Got to get hold of that film. Doesn´t seem to be on Youtube.
Graham Nash, who lived with her for a while, described how, when she was writing, it was like she was a medium, he couldn´t reach her, she sat right there but she could not hear him, she was not present…

She said her songs take a lot of meditation. And she paints in between the albums; without painting she doesn´t think she could write…

Genderless, classless music… Refusing boundaries. No boxes. Inclusion, not exclusion, as a fellow musician expressed it…

She had a nervous breakdown, “or, as they call it in some cultures, she said; “a shamanic rising”. ” She turned to nature. Fame turned her off.

Such strength.

Wow. Just.
There´s a whole bunch of albums I need to get hold of. Quickly!

I feel… inspired by her. And a bit sad, in a strange way. To realize that talent can have the size of hers. That old thought comes back to me. The one I have learnt, through hard work, should not steer me or limit me, should be calmed down or talked against. The thought that “why should I write, when someone like her has already done it so well?”

That old fear again. Not being good enough. At least when one can identify it, it has lost most of its power.

I have a manuscript in English that´s been lying in my drawer for years. Unseen. I have a collection of poems in Norwegian, also unseen. Which I was planning to send to a publisher’s, but I haven´t gotten it done yet. Had this plan for over a year. I have a third project, a story about a girl whose mother dies… that story is hard to continue writing…

But okay. To my defense or excuse, I have young children. I don´t get the priviledge of going within for extended time periods, to create, or even focus. I will get there.

success not what u see

That human mind. Endlessly comparing. I know it is silly. So I don´t really take it seriously. But it is how i deal with fear. I give it air, I voice it and listen to it. Accept it, comfort it, then watch it let go of me. Like a child, who gets through something that hurt comforted in its mother´s arms, then lets go and runs off to play again, relieved and happy, one experience wiser. Swiftly moving on to new learnings…

I wrote a poem about this. In my book. I wrote it in 2007.

About How I Deal with Fear

Fear.

To be allowed passage.
To be faced.
To be taken seriously.

To be reasoned with, talked to,
analyzed, to understand its cause.
To be cried.
To be accepted.

To try and change my inner dialogue.
If unsuccesful, to get help
from NLP or other specialist.

This is the song I knew from before. Masterpiece. As, honestly, it seems, all her work is. Master´s pieces. And the moving between genres, writing such personal, psychological lyrics long before others did… She´s something else. Outstanding. Un comparable.

I guess she received yet another fan tonight, huh.      🙂

I just become so grateful when someone expresses the universal so well. Form and content not just mastered, but invented! The immensely special way that she uses her voice… Yeah. I could go on.

Thank you Joni.
I shall enjoy your work and be inspired by it.
And work on not faling into the pit of fear.
I am good enough too. My work has its place, just like anyone else´s.
Let this be the year where I send my finished stuff to publishers.
And let my story about the girl, keep moving forward.

Amen.
So to speak.

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January Thoughts

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newyearresolution

Yeah… I will move in the direction of these…

I´m always very careful with resolutions. I avoid making promises that   I´m not sure if I can keep.

The new year has started, and on Monday my husband is going back to work after having been home since October! He worked so much previously, that he could take all this time off!
It has been a gift. To be two adults in the household. Making both of us free to go for errands etc. without finding support for the children in the meantime… The little ones have hardly been to kindergarten. Instead we have hung out at home, they have learnt some piano playing actually, they have come with us to the dentist, or grocery store, library, or to the public indoor pool…

Appreciation. Gratitude. Is the healthy attitude.

I consciously try to count my blessings, and my victories, more than finding faults, noticing what is lacking.

I also say to myself “choose your battles”, when I get upset about daily life details. Some things are worth being stubborn about. Most things are not.

Dr.Phil has a good one: “Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?!”

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I love January. With its introspectedness, its calm and quiet rhythm of non action.
It fels empty, open. The old is over with. Before us lies the new, possibilities, opportunities, hope.
It is also a perfect time for creating expressions. Poems, songs, edit video, plan projects. Somehow a pregnant time of year, to use that metaphor.

u are worthy always

Yeah… acceptance…of one´s self and one´s situation, surroundings… central. Self worth. What do we have if we don´t have that? And yet, so many of us struggle with it. Not feeling that we are good enough.

We work with that feeling in our vocal sound therapy. “Sing ourselves free” from old wounds, traumas, damaging self images… out with the old, and in with new ways of understanding oneself, building one´s identity on new elements… Very efficient method, to use one´s own voice for the liberation.

Probably sounds a bit cryptic. If you want to read about it in depth, get hold of the book just translated into English: “The note from Heaven”. (Danish; Tonen fra Himlen). By my teacher, Githa Ben-David.

What else is there to say in the here and now…?

 

soft heart is courageous

Important to remember in these turbulent times… something is definitely changing on our planet. With the migration away from the drought areas and wars, into Europe… Europe´s shameful reaction of no reaction, building barbed wired fences in individual countries instead of standing up and helping our brothers and sisters in their desperate need for safety. Who would have thought this is what Europe would look like in a humanitarian crises, which is even created in part by Europe itself. Through participation in the wars in the middle east, and through cutting UN funds for aid …

But. Yes. Keep your heart strong and courageous, hence soft. Meet refugees as the equal human beings that they are. And know that what you give out, is what comes back to you. Treat people well, and you will yourself be rewarded. Very simple. Treat people aggressively, and they will answer with aggression. Trust begets trust. Right now it takes so little, to help refugees and receive their immense gratitude. How would you prefer for someone to treat you if you were in their situation? That´s the way to treat them! It is not hard to understand!

 

every religion teaches kindness

In fact, every religion says the same about this: Treat others as you yourself want to be treated.

 

Yeah… The new year… We are moving into the new, for sure… unknown challenges ahead… or history in repetition… I have been an anti racist all my life, joining organizations for peace and equality between the sexes, between the “races”, between gays and heteros…  I didn´t think our evolution would be turning in this direction, like this, and now. I thought that ok, history repeats itself , so the social sciences say, but. Not this soon after the holocaust. No. I did not think so.

Anyways.

comes back to u treatment

Yeah…. apart from these thoughts, it´s pretty quiet so far, my January. I have had 3 sound clients. And have seen friends and relaxed with my family. There blows a fresh breeze from Sibiria as we speak. So we stay indoors mostly. The wind makes the temperature minus 20 degrees celcius, I read somewhere! V-v-v-v-v-very c-c-c-c-c-coooold-d-d-d.

Here is a photo of our dear Fanø ferry, a day or two ago… And with this image I bid you fare well.

fanøfærge i is

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