Growing grownups

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u have the e of the sun in u Rumi

“You have the energy of the sun in you. ”
– Rumi

I´m tired. And I have a cold. So I´m off to bed in a sec. Just feel like saying hi to you my blogreaders.
From the bedroom underneath my feet, I can hear my eldest daughter and her three fellow 11-yearold girlfriends chattering and giggling. So sweet, they truely are. I feel honoured that they ask to come stay over at ours. I very much want my kids to bring their friends home. Where I can get to know their friends, keep a distant eye on them as they approach puberty… not intimidatingly. I´m neither a curling mom nor a helicopter mom. Far from it. My goal is to grow independent self reliant children. They have to be given freedom in order to make mistakes they can learn from.
But by giving them space to hang out in my home, I get the priviledge of them turning to me from time to time, with an important question, or a story of how life is treating them. And that is an openness and a level of trust I appreciate and work towards.

Anyways. They are downstairs, and I´ve told them I´m off to bed and to ask dad if they need help with anything. And that the only promise I want them to give me, is that they will brush their teeth before they fall asleep. Which they´ve promised. Bless them.   🙂

Let me share some of the slogan posts I have gathered in my Facebook stream lately , all to do with parenting, or children…

childrens feelings

 

Nice one to keep in mind…  Here is another one…

 

feelings are ok

Yeah… if only children were taught this. That any emotion is okay. And  that shaming people for showing feelings that feel unpleasant to the surroundings, is not okay… This is actually a big problem in our society. Suppression of feelings. Sadness, anger. Until it boils over. Or explodes…

Another one:

finnish school system

Interesting, isn´t it? The Finnish system and its results… I wish other countries would go research and copy the stuff that works. That would be intelligent.

u are worthy always

Imagine if this is what our kids learnt in school. I think that how to tackle life´s challenges, should be the primary thing for them to learn. Psychology, communication, empathy, how to build good, positive networks, how to think positive, how to build trust, how to love oneself…

Oh. I could write a lot about this. But not right now. I´m really knackered.

One last poster and off to bed with me.

Here you are. A great piece of advice for any human, big or small.  🙂

before u sleep think happy

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Reshuffling

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Spring is here. Sunshine, yet cool´n crispy air, kids finding thinner garments to wear,  filling mom with sickness fear…

So there.

Easter holiday started last night. Our usual Friday rituals with candy (once a week only, in front of the Disney tv programme 7 pm), followed by X factor… I had some time by myself colouring and writing out in my listening hut in the garden, whilst waiting for X factor to start… we had easy food, fajitas filled with leftovers…

And today we have no plans. All of us just hanging out, kids went to visit neighbours, now they are playing with the new Roland Handsonic (drum machine) we got the two tiny-tots for their birthdays recently.

And us adults have solved a few technical issues that´s been on hold. And now we have moved on to next phase of our big furniture reshuffling project. Which in turn is a piece in our ginormous puzzle of making a big kitchen by tearing down a wall, and rebuild the wall in a new place so the front room becomes part of the kitchen.  There  will be a small walk through space with a sofa and a tv in it, still, though…

In addition we will turn a bedroom downstairs into a vocal sound therapy room for me. It will double as a guest room or kid´s sleeping space as well. This house is a bit small for the five of us. But I´m not worried. We will find solutions so everyone gets their own space to withdraw to.  And be flexible, find new solutions as times and needs change…

I have always loved to reshuffle furniture. Did it a lot as a child in my own room. I was lucky to have a big room that my grand dad made for me in the basement. All private and spacious. Away from parents and siblings. With all my pop and rock music posters. And a huge card board box full of second hand cartoons that I swapped into new wads down at the second hand book store. Reading was my favourite activity growing up. And listening to music. Playing soccer and playing the piano.

new bunk bed

Here are the kids a couple of weekends ago, when we set up a bunk bed some friends gave us. Well chuffed children.  🙂 We’ve all slept in that one kids´ room the last few months actually. Because I react allergically to our bedroom downstairs. I suspect there is mold behind the wardrobe that is built touching the outer wall of this old house (from 1789)… So I moved out, up into the two young kids´ bedroom. Which made my oldest daughter move in there too. And my husband. Haha… and then it was too crowded for me to sleep undisturbed in between all the kids, so I took my eldest daughter´s bed! Man, I sleep fantastic in there, all by myself, reading books like I used to before I got myself a  husband and children to consider… 🙂

Right now, my husband is preparing space for our double bed to be moved up into the space between the two bedrooms on the first floor. Quite a task. Once the bed is out of the bedroom we can tear down that wardrobe…. my God it´s gonna be chaotic here for a while. But. Worth it.

To get a dining table big enough for our five kids, two in law kids and soon two grand kids. A place to gather for meals and meal preparations. Piano in the kitchen. A comfy corner for reading books. Give it to me!

I should really have loads of photos from the house here now, shouldn´t I…

And woooosh, ten minutes later, a quick round of photos loaded into phone, onto email and on into the blog library:

Here is the family bed in the downstairs bedroom we have moved out of. It is hand made by a Swedish architect friend of ours; Adrian Crumhorn. (He used to live in New Orleans until Katarina came and washed away his home there. Before that, he lived in some African country. Lovely man).
The double bed has an extention, another single bed that brings the sleeping space all the way to the wall. A lot of cosy family sleep hours have been spent there. The mirror was my wish. I was pregnant at the time he made it. I thought the mirror would occupy the baby/toddler, so she or he could stand there and talk to her or himself while I could keep dozing a wee while more. Good idea, huh?! And yup, it did work as I had planned, as well. 🙂

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Here is “the in between space” as I call it. Where the bed will recide from now on. For a while. An open space between two kids´ bedrooms. Not ideal as a parents´  bedroom but. Hey. We will test it, and if it feels wrong then we will change the arrangements. Our house is a traditional Fanø-house, so all upstairs is like a tent, with slanted walls… not the easiest to furnish. But our garden is biggish, and private. And our neighbourhood is filled with friends, dead downtown yet very quiet… so… we don´t want to move away from here.

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Here´s a picture of my old room, which now is my oldest daughter´s room. So she can go in here and close the door behind her when she wants privacy. I still have my desk in here, though. Which will go into my new therapy room when it is ready.

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(Yes, it´s messy. Trying to organize different papers etc at the mo).

 

Here´s my daughter´s bed, where I sleep all alone so peacefully these days…:

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Downstairs, here is the kitchen. Taken from the door opening.

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Our kitchen table barely sits the five of us… and our kids often bring friends home… as do us adults as well… yeah, a big kitchen will really make our life easier.

 

And here is the living room. Which will become part of the kitchen. Be reduced to a sofa corner. Barely. But it is the right move for us. No doubt about that.

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My books will have to go into my therapy/office room. I have always wanted a library. The books I have, are either ones I have studied, and will read again, or books I have not yet read but know I will. So. Every time I´ve moved, I have gotten rid of some books (and tons of other stuff). But I know there are not many books left to get rid of.

This last photo, is from the other end of the living room. Where my husband keeps his old church organ. Which yes, he does play on it, and it sounds really lovely. So. It takes a lot of space but. It´s not going anywhere. The dolls house Viola is playing with, my eldest daughter Lava brought home from school a couple of days ago! She has made it all by herself! Bless her. Well done. It is big….but…. what can I do. Just enjoy watching them play with it…   🙂

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Yeah… I guess I should go downstairs and start making some dinner.
As a Norwegian saying goes; “Without food and drink, the hero is useless.”

Catch ya later, gators!

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Just…Positive Stuff

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Sunday. Both my daughters have a sweet friend over, hanging out. Nice and peaceful. I serve them apples and sandwiches from time to time and other than that the house is just quiet and harmonious, I can hear chatter and giggles from different rooms from my first floor office here. Lovely.

Feel happy today. Peaceful. Rested. Excited for the future, actually.

We have plans for renovating inside our house. Move a wall so the front room and piano will be part of the kitchen instead. No more front room, just a sofa and a movie screen. And a huge kitchen.
Also, we want to turn one bedroom into a clinic room or what to call it? For my massage table, and my desk and books. It needs a new floor, and wardrobe and. Yeah. A lot of work. But creative work, satisfying work. With very heartlifting rewards.
A big dining table that can sit all our five kids, two inlaw-kids and soon two grandkids… or our kids´ friends when they come round, or when grandma and aunties from Norway come to visit for weekends…

Yeah, A good project.

In addition I am working on two large social events.

First, 17.of April, my ngo is hosting a folk dance party for the entire island, to welcome all the new Syrian neighbours we have received. International music, trying eachother´s traditional dances, and an international, local cake buffet. Nice, eh? I´m very proud of the idea we have created. Now we just need to get all the work ready.

The second event is called Day of Diversity, and is happening 11. of June. Hosted by an other ngo I am a board member of. “The Incredibles”. There will be a circus show made by the island´s kindergarten children. And an international buffet of some sort. Local bands. maybe a soccer match between adults and kids. Maybe anything at all,  as we are inviting all social clubs and sportsclubs and local ngos in general, to come and strut their stuff so to speak, take part in the programme, come show us who they are or whatever they would like to do. We are hoping this can become an annual event, for the whole island to celebrate our community.

kunstutstil.christiania hodeskalle

This is from an art exhibition in Christiania, Copenhagen, that i visited in December. I love art exhibitions. Here´s some more impressions from the same one:

kunstutstil. christiania to skulpturer

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Here is the house marking the entrance to Christiania. So beautiful.     I just adore this.

christiania indgang

Here is a positive piece of news:

forced to not throw away food france

And here is something to help us surround ourself with positive people:

admitting mistakes than perfect people

And here… is a piece of reality, which made me laugh. In all its… darkness. We have to keep a sense of humour when times are tough. Is my humble opinion.

im not a racist

Right… let me also share with you some positive songs.
This one I love! 🙂

And this one by the Kinks. So political. And true.

One more. For the road. Have a splendid Sunday out there. And treat eachother lovingly! 🙂

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To Feel Good

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I dreamt last night that I updated my blog with two excellent posts, and they were dead easy to write. And of course I don´t remember what those posts were about. Ha a-hAA.  Mother Universe plays pranks on me.

Well, then. I have just spent the last couple of hours out in my listening hut in the garden, behind the apple tree. With a great book written by Lars Muhl.  And half an excellent bottle of red wine.

And I´m feeling good…

I love Nina and her music. Total respect. Such strength. Such talent. My first child was born to her song “Here comes the sun”. She has a special place in my heart.

Now. What else makes me feel good, apart from her song about feeling good…

happiness is to not compare yourself

Hmmyeah… feels good to not compare myself to other people. That´s right.

make yourself a priority is necessity

Yups. This too plays a major role in my feeling good. Time alone with myself. Me, my Self and i.
Small i intended. And capital S. Meaning; it´s a spiritual refuelling thing, not an ego refuelling thing.

I read this book years ago, that said to take one´s inner child our for adventures. Like dates.
I can tell you, it works wonders for your feelgood-factor if you take this literally. As do I.

This video. It makes me feel good. Dancing does. Dancing like no one is watching. YEAH.

And of course we can´t even MENTION to feel good without everyone getting this line from this man on their inner movie screen / loudspeaker… :

!965… There is another video, where he is in some kind of skiing lodge, is it a clip from a movie? He´s in like a woolly sweater. Icelandic knitting tradition… check it out on Youtube… I just think it´s a bit too corny for me to paste it here, somehow… it´s worth seeing though. Handsome guy, James.

So. Feeling good.

gøy med baggasjevogn

Seeing my kids have fun, makes me feel good… Like here, in an airport somewhere…

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And here, in a fish spa in Budapest with my eldest daughter… we felt very good as you can see…

never stop loving

This must be the bottom line. Never stop loving. If you want to feel good.

Simple but True. Don´t you agree?

🙂

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