Yeah… I will move in the direction of these…
I´m always very careful with resolutions. I avoid making promises that I´m not sure if I can keep.
The new year has started, and on Monday my husband is going back to work after having been home since October! He worked so much previously, that he could take all this time off!
It has been a gift. To be two adults in the household. Making both of us free to go for errands etc. without finding support for the children in the meantime… The little ones have hardly been to kindergarten. Instead we have hung out at home, they have learnt some piano playing actually, they have come with us to the dentist, or grocery store, library, or to the public indoor pool…
Appreciation. Gratitude. Is the healthy attitude.
I consciously try to count my blessings, and my victories, more than finding faults, noticing what is lacking.
I also say to myself “choose your battles”, when I get upset about daily life details. Some things are worth being stubborn about. Most things are not.
Dr.Phil has a good one: “Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?!”
I love January. With its introspectedness, its calm and quiet rhythm of non action.
It fels empty, open. The old is over with. Before us lies the new, possibilities, opportunities, hope.
It is also a perfect time for creating expressions. Poems, songs, edit video, plan projects. Somehow a pregnant time of year, to use that metaphor.
Yeah… acceptance…of one´s self and one´s situation, surroundings… central. Self worth. What do we have if we don´t have that? And yet, so many of us struggle with it. Not feeling that we are good enough.
We work with that feeling in our vocal sound therapy. “Sing ourselves free” from old wounds, traumas, damaging self images… out with the old, and in with new ways of understanding oneself, building one´s identity on new elements… Very efficient method, to use one´s own voice for the liberation.
Probably sounds a bit cryptic. If you want to read about it in depth, get hold of the book just translated into English: “The note from Heaven”. (Danish; Tonen fra Himlen). By my teacher, Githa Ben-David.
What else is there to say in the here and now…?
Important to remember in these turbulent times… something is definitely changing on our planet. With the migration away from the drought areas and wars, into Europe… Europe´s shameful reaction of no reaction, building barbed wired fences in individual countries instead of standing up and helping our brothers and sisters in their desperate need for safety. Who would have thought this is what Europe would look like in a humanitarian crises, which is even created in part by Europe itself. Through participation in the wars in the middle east, and through cutting UN funds for aid …
But. Yes. Keep your heart strong and courageous, hence soft. Meet refugees as the equal human beings that they are. And know that what you give out, is what comes back to you. Treat people well, and you will yourself be rewarded. Very simple. Treat people aggressively, and they will answer with aggression. Trust begets trust. Right now it takes so little, to help refugees and receive their immense gratitude. How would you prefer for someone to treat you if you were in their situation? That´s the way to treat them! It is not hard to understand!
In fact, every religion says the same about this: Treat others as you yourself want to be treated.
Yeah… The new year… We are moving into the new, for sure… unknown challenges ahead… or history in repetition… I have been an anti racist all my life, joining organizations for peace and equality between the sexes, between the “races”, between gays and heteros… I didn´t think our evolution would be turning in this direction, like this, and now. I thought that ok, history repeats itself , so the social sciences say, but. Not this soon after the holocaust. No. I did not think so.
Yeah…. apart from these thoughts, it´s pretty quiet so far, my January. I have had 3 sound clients. And have seen friends and relaxed with my family. There blows a fresh breeze from Sibiria as we speak. So we stay indoors mostly. The wind makes the temperature minus 20 degrees celcius, I read somewhere! V-v-v-v-v-very c-c-c-c-c-coooold-d-d-d.
Here is a photo of our dear Fanø ferry, a day or two ago… And with this image I bid you fare well.